The problem was increment of aborted_threads variable due to thd->killed which was set when threadpool connection was terminated . The fix is not to set thd->killed anymore, there is no real reason for doing it..
Added a test that checks that status variable aborted_clients does not grow for ordinary disconnects, and that successful KILL increments this variable.
To allow it, change minimum of thread_pool_stall_limit to be 10 milliseconds.
Also introduce a new parameter to oversubscribe a group . Number of threads running in parallel would be higher than it normally should, leading to thrashing, but it may improving preemptiveness, which is useful for the described corner case.