MDEV-31893 Valgrind reports issues in main.join_cache_notasan

This is also related to
MDEV-31348 Assertion `last_key_entry >= end_pos' failed in virtual bool
           JOIN_CACHE_HASHED::put_record()

Valgrind exposed a problem with the join_cache for hash joins:
=25636== Conditional jump or move depends on uninitialised value(s)
==25636== at 0xA8FF4E: JOIN_CACHE_HASHED::init_hash_table()
          (sql_join_cache.cc:2901)

The reason for this was that avg_record_length contained a random value
if one had used SET optimizer_switch='optimize_join_buffer_size=off'.

This causes either 'random size' memory to be allocated (up to
join_buffer_size) which can increase memory usage or, if avg_record_length
is less than the row size, memory overwrites in thd->mem_root, which is
bad.

Fixed by setting avg_record_length in JOIN_CACHE_HASHED::init()
before it's used.

There is no test case for MDEV-31893 as valgrind of join_cache_notasan
checks that.
I added a test case for MDEV-31348.

sql/sql_join_cache.h

@@ -130,6 +130,7 @@ protected:
     case 4: int4store(ptr, (uint32) ofs); return;
     }
   }
+  size_t calc_avg_record_length();
   
   /* 
     The maximum total length of the fields stored for a record in the cache.